How to Trust People Again

First you have to decide whether you want to trust the person again - is it worth it? You have to look at the relationship you have with the person who you have lost trust in. Are they important enough for you to try to trust them again and open yourself up for additional pain? The following are steps you can use to determine if you want to trust the person again and they offer ways for you to be able to trust people again.

The first step is to write down the reasons you do not trust the person. Weight the importance of the items on the list with a scale from one to three based on how severe they are. If you have even one item that is in the most severe category you may not be able to regain the trust.

Look over your list and if it is composed of only a few minor to medium offenses they you should be able to work on regaining your trust of the person. But, if the list is long with several items that are very severe you will need to evaluate whether you want to attempt to regain trust of the person.

When you look at your list see how long ago the issue occurred. If an event happen a very long time ago you should more than likely forgive and move on.

Now you should make a list of why you want to return the friendship back to the way it was. You don't have to write this list down if you don't want to just remember a few reasons that you want to keep the this person in your life.

You should understand that even when you begin to trust this person and decide to continue your friendship or relationship again it would never be exactly like it was before. It could improve as moving on from the betrayal might make your bond stronger but it could become worse as well.

Talk with the person whose trust you have lost and be honest about what they need to do for you to be able to move forward. Perhaps all you need is an apology or you may need some other proof that the person can be trusted and give the trust back when you feel that they have earned it. Communication is a key in being able to trust people again.

Time is required for you to be able to heal and you should allow yourself all the time you require. You will hurt but with time you will be able to move on.

Reference: Celeste_Jamils