Ever wonder what things guys hate about girls or things you should never tell a man? If you really like a guy then there are a few things you should know about what will send men running for the hills. A lot of the advice out there that claims to teach women how to land a man can actually backfire and stop a prospective relationship cold. Luckily the things guys hate about girls are pretty simple to find out. In fact, things guys hate about girls really comes down to not acting needy or playing games. There are many ways in which being non-needy translates into how to be a perfect girlfriend. Here are some key points:
1. Secure women don't play games
Ask any guy about women playing games and they will tell you two things, they've all experienced it, and it makes them lose respect for a woman. Especially when starting out a relationship, playing games can be disastrous. Men think very logically, most men won't play games because they are being respectful, so if you play games, he will think that you don't respect him. The only kind of guy that will stay with a woman who doesn't respect him isn't the kind of guy you want to be involved with. So avoid needlessly making a guy wait or do extra tasks to prove himself.
If your actions are coming from a genuine place, i.e. moral reasons or legitimate discomfort, then you're not playing games and it's ok.
If on the other hand your actions are calculated because you want to make sure that he is yours and maybe you even like seeing what you can make him do, then you are projecting insecurity. Secure women don't need to play games because they are confident that a good man for them will want to be with them without games.
2. Attention seeking complaining
Don't be the woman that complains that his life isn't centered on her, in fact, don't be a woman that complains at all. There's nothing that kills a budding relationship than when a man feels like he is being used as an emotional outlet. If you need to complain about things in your life, don't do it with a prospective boyfriend.
Communication is about expressing feelings complaining however shows insecurity.
The difference is where they come from. Don't cut off your negative emotions, communication is important, but it's important to know how to communicate effectively with men. Men don't enjoy sitting around talking about their problems, they like to either solve them or move on to uplifting topics. You can learn to enjoy this aspect of male behavior.
3. Don't revolve your life around him
Men enjoy attention, but also need their personal time as well. Many men are afraid from bad past experiences that they will inadvertently end up in a relationship with a woman who needs them for everything. You need to have your own life (you shouldn't be available all the time) and be comfortable with giving him space (you don't need all that attention). That way the time you do spend together is more valuable and comes from a place of desire rather than discontent.
Most men phrase what they look for in a relationship this way: They want to be with someone who wants to be with them but doesn't need to be them. Self-reliance and confidence are traits that men cannot resist in women, while desperation and neediness are only attractive to insecure men or men who enjoy using women. Real guys love a challenge.
1. Secure women don't play games
Ask any guy about women playing games and they will tell you two things, they've all experienced it, and it makes them lose respect for a woman. Especially when starting out a relationship, playing games can be disastrous. Men think very logically, most men won't play games because they are being respectful, so if you play games, he will think that you don't respect him. The only kind of guy that will stay with a woman who doesn't respect him isn't the kind of guy you want to be involved with. So avoid needlessly making a guy wait or do extra tasks to prove himself.
If your actions are coming from a genuine place, i.e. moral reasons or legitimate discomfort, then you're not playing games and it's ok.
If on the other hand your actions are calculated because you want to make sure that he is yours and maybe you even like seeing what you can make him do, then you are projecting insecurity. Secure women don't need to play games because they are confident that a good man for them will want to be with them without games.
2. Attention seeking complaining
Don't be the woman that complains that his life isn't centered on her, in fact, don't be a woman that complains at all. There's nothing that kills a budding relationship than when a man feels like he is being used as an emotional outlet. If you need to complain about things in your life, don't do it with a prospective boyfriend.
Communication is about expressing feelings complaining however shows insecurity.
The difference is where they come from. Don't cut off your negative emotions, communication is important, but it's important to know how to communicate effectively with men. Men don't enjoy sitting around talking about their problems, they like to either solve them or move on to uplifting topics. You can learn to enjoy this aspect of male behavior.
3. Don't revolve your life around him
Men enjoy attention, but also need their personal time as well. Many men are afraid from bad past experiences that they will inadvertently end up in a relationship with a woman who needs them for everything. You need to have your own life (you shouldn't be available all the time) and be comfortable with giving him space (you don't need all that attention). That way the time you do spend together is more valuable and comes from a place of desire rather than discontent.
Most men phrase what they look for in a relationship this way: They want to be with someone who wants to be with them but doesn't need to be them. Self-reliance and confidence are traits that men cannot resist in women, while desperation and neediness are only attractive to insecure men or men who enjoy using women. Real guys love a challenge.
Reference: Ethan_Steele
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