Men will try to hide their pain about having man boobs (gynecomastia). They suffer in silence sometimes telling no one. They'll pretend that the jokes don't bother them. But deep down... it really does bother them... A LOT!!
If you have man boobs, first I want to impress upon you that you are not alone in feeling pain over the fact that you have them. Don't think that just because you see that it doesn't bother other men, that it shouldn't bother you. They are probably just pretending it doesn't bother them just like you. Remember, men don't usually talk to other men about these sorts of issues.
I have found that my close male friends actually prefer to talk to me, a woman, than even their closest male friends, about these sorts of issues. What I've learned is that men that suffer with man boobs are usually experiencing a lot of emotional pain.
This pain stems from 3 main areas:
First, they endure relentless teasing that they feel like they have to just pretend is funny when in reality it is hurting them deep down inside. Outwardly, they laugh it off but inside it really burns a hole in their psyche. Many men avoid situations that will put them in contact with other men who will see them shirtless. They'll avoid wearing their favorite shirt just because they think it shows up their man boobs more. Even family members often seem to join in the relentless teasing. This usually hurts more than anything else. No one wants to hear that from their Dad, their Uncle, or brother. It is depressing to say the least. You are not alone if this is happening to you.
Second, they've usually experienced some negative reactions from women with regards to their chest. Even when women are nice about it (and they usually are), men can see it in the woman's eyes, her tone, and her body language. This hurts even more than when men poke fun at them. Many men avoid women altogether so they don't have to endure this pain. They pass up golden opportunities to date. They lose confidence to ask a woman out. Co-workers and acquaintances just think they're shy. Little do they know the pain they are so carefully hiding.
Third, they've tried all kinds of things to make their man boobs disappear but nothing seemed to work. Mostly, they try chest exercises. They try losing weight. They don't realize that man boobs have NOTHING to do with extra weight or building up more muscle. They try herbal remedies they've read about. Often times, they actually end up making the situation worse to the point they get more depressed about it than ever before. Sometimes, they just give up and resign themselves that they are going to have man boobs for the rest of their life.
All this pain is very real as I have seen it as my very friends as they have confided in me and finally opened enough to talk about it.
Reference: Linda_Howard
If you have man boobs, first I want to impress upon you that you are not alone in feeling pain over the fact that you have them. Don't think that just because you see that it doesn't bother other men, that it shouldn't bother you. They are probably just pretending it doesn't bother them just like you. Remember, men don't usually talk to other men about these sorts of issues.
I have found that my close male friends actually prefer to talk to me, a woman, than even their closest male friends, about these sorts of issues. What I've learned is that men that suffer with man boobs are usually experiencing a lot of emotional pain.
This pain stems from 3 main areas:
First, they endure relentless teasing that they feel like they have to just pretend is funny when in reality it is hurting them deep down inside. Outwardly, they laugh it off but inside it really burns a hole in their psyche. Many men avoid situations that will put them in contact with other men who will see them shirtless. They'll avoid wearing their favorite shirt just because they think it shows up their man boobs more. Even family members often seem to join in the relentless teasing. This usually hurts more than anything else. No one wants to hear that from their Dad, their Uncle, or brother. It is depressing to say the least. You are not alone if this is happening to you.
Second, they've usually experienced some negative reactions from women with regards to their chest. Even when women are nice about it (and they usually are), men can see it in the woman's eyes, her tone, and her body language. This hurts even more than when men poke fun at them. Many men avoid women altogether so they don't have to endure this pain. They pass up golden opportunities to date. They lose confidence to ask a woman out. Co-workers and acquaintances just think they're shy. Little do they know the pain they are so carefully hiding.
Third, they've tried all kinds of things to make their man boobs disappear but nothing seemed to work. Mostly, they try chest exercises. They try losing weight. They don't realize that man boobs have NOTHING to do with extra weight or building up more muscle. They try herbal remedies they've read about. Often times, they actually end up making the situation worse to the point they get more depressed about it than ever before. Sometimes, they just give up and resign themselves that they are going to have man boobs for the rest of their life.
All this pain is very real as I have seen it as my very friends as they have confided in me and finally opened enough to talk about it.
Reference: Linda_Howard
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